After a magnificent lunch date with your best friend, you realise how lucky you are at that point of time; everything is going perfectly well in your life! You have the most amazing supportive family and friends, a best friend who is more of a sister to you and this life is better than one could ever ask for. Plus you just met this really great guy who has all the potential to be The One.
The weekend is coming to an end. You don’t really mind as you have more things to look forward to. Your mood improves and your positive vibes are contagious among all those around you! You become a better company for everyone. No one or nothing can put you down, well except for maybe your boss!
You are glowing and spreading happiness everywhere you go and you tip your favourite coffee shop with £3 instead of £1. During the week, you constantly keep in contact with each other – either via texts, phone calls, Facebook, WhatsApp and occasionally Skype during an evening or two. You two are now flirting more and more with each other and send random WhatsApp images of coffee, cloudy skies, his frown face on a morning traffic, food you each had that day, your boss grumpy face from afar, you name it.
Then Friday arrives, you are about to end a conversation with a group of your closest friends on Skype. You were talking about the outfit for tonight. They were very helpful and you managed to successfully pick on a casual yet neat outfit to wear for your second date.
He texts you saying that he has just got off work and that he looks forward to seeing you. He also lets you know that he will just take a quick shower and he will be on his way to pick you up. You get excited and by then you are already half way ready. Of course, because women tend to take a bit longer to get ready, just a bit…
He texts you again letting you know he is just leaving the house on his way to yours. What a gentleman! You think to yourself as you wink to your dog. You text back with a short okay and a smiley face alongside an x. One last text from your best friend wishing you a great time with a cheeky message saying “tonight is the night to lock lips. Love youuu! xxx”. You laugh it off and thank her with a ♥.
The butterflies in your stomach are growing stronger, you know he will soon be here. And then, the bell rings… you stop breathing for 2 seconds. Your dog is already at the door before you and barks, acknowledging that it’s him, the potential Mr. Right.
You check yourself for the last time in the mirror just by the entrance door, adjust your black dress to its appropriate place and make your way to open the door with a big smile. He smiles back at you and you greet each other with a hug and a kiss on the cheek. This time with more confidence. He meets your four-paw friend for the first time and they immediately become friends. Voilà, you got your dog’s approval.
You prepared some snacks and wine for both of you before you leave for your night. As you pour him a glass of wine, you ask how was his day even though you already know from the hundreds of text and images exchanged earlier in the day. You chat away for a good 35 minutes and honestly you would have been quite happy to just stay at home and watch a movie or something. Or something, right? But neither of you dare to say anything so you just go along with the initial plan.
Another perfect night only that this time there has been results. The French kiss happens and what’s best of all? He initiates it, just like in the movies you watch with your single girl friends since the break down of your last relationship up until a few weeks ago. Those were the ladies nights when you used to sob and wonder why you were still single and if there was something wrong with you. Almost two years it lasted. It actually felt longer, didn’t it? It feels like you forgot how to kiss, how to embrace a lover or even how to be a woman. At that point of time, you reached the stage of “it’s Winter, I’m single therefore I’m not going to shave my legs and down there”. But not tonight.
Tonight you bam all your looks out! You made sure every single bit of your body was clean and smooth just like a newborn baby’s skin feels like. Nothing feels great as a confident, beautiful woman and that’s who you are tonight.
He approaches for that so long waited encounter of lips, he feels confident to do so because you spent the entire night throwing hints that you are ready and willing. He got a bit confused few times as he was not quite sure if it meant he had the green light for a kiss or you were just playing.
But as he drops you at your front door, he finally gets the message – the long gaze you give him right into his eyes accompanied by a secure smile. That’s his cue, and he goes for it!
As he leans closer towards your way, your eyes lock on each other and both of you then close them for that passionate vavavoom French kiss. While it goes on, you firmly stroke his hair and he affectionately strokes your face. No need to plan or read any books about it, it just comes naturally to you. You were so nervous about kissing someone again that just the thought of it made you shiver. How silly of you! It feels longer than it lasts but then both of you were eager to kfind out each other’s reaction. Normal!
Both of you then gaze at each other and smile. That went well did it not? It went so well that you spend another hour or so in his car “saying goodnight”, if you know what I mean…
But then, as a woman that you are, once in bed, you start to wonder “so are we official now? Are we dating or just seeing each other? What is happening?”, and remember when you said you did not want to rush into things? Of course you don’t remember! Rationality has officially left your mind.
He then texts you saying that he is thinking about you and the kiss and wish the night would still last. How sweet!
You text him back, saying that you cannot wait to see him again and then put some extra x’s at the end. Just in case he forgot how much you are into him. After that, you text straight away to your best friend, with a short message “Yep it happened xxx” in which she would reply back “What happened????? xxx”
Since you were not very specific on your text, you just make her not sleep and wonder what happened. You don’t respond back because you are too busy reminiscing on that kiss for hours and hours and hours.
So, you two become an item, the real deal, boyfriend and girlfriend and you even change the status on Facebook, having many likes and well wishes. He meets your friends and you meet his. His best friend from high school days approves of you. He assures you that he’s only heard good things about you and your beau would not introduce him anyone unless she is a keeper. You smile upon hearing that, because there’s nothing more reassuring that knowing you’ve been talked about by the guy you like to his best friend.
Then it comes the time to meet the family. He only has an older brother, 3 years older to be exact. He too has a girlfriend and you know this because he filled you in on that since the four of you are about to go on a double date. An Italian restaurant is picked by the brothers, for being their favourite since they remember. The night comes, you’re a bit apprehensive in regards to everything happening so fast. You have not had time to catch a breath. Every day there’s something going and every day, a new step is taken forward in your relationship. You ignore the sign and you go ahead anyway.
He comes to pick you up at the usual time. You slip a worrying comment before driving off: “What if they don’t like me?”. He replies back with this inviting smile and reassuring gaze: “They don’t have to..what really matters is what I feel about you!”.
At the restaurant, they have not arrived. Your beau notices you are restless so he calms you down by giving you a quick peck on the lips and his warm hand tenderly caressing your face. They arrived and are pleased to meet you. They have been charmed by you and your down to earth personality. Your relationship with them starts from there…
It’s all good and jolly! Days passes by and you are still at the honeymoon stage. And then the three magic words, eight letters slip out – “I love you”. It doesn’t really matter who says it first, you both feel the same, that’s what’s important!
You start to plan travelling together. And then you actually travel together, mini short breaks here and there and cute gifts for Valentine Day and romantic dates. You both settle a favourite destination – Venice, Italy. And things under the sheets also couldn’t go better. Lots and lots of photos of you two together, selfies, group snaps with friends and on social events.
And when your first anniversary comes by, oh my! Maybe you celebrate it with a romantic trip to Paris or Venice again? Champagne and bonbons with expensive gifts to each other. And of course a sexy surprise at the end of the night in a very fancy hotel room. I mean this marks your first year together after all!
But then more time passes by and you start to allow yourselves to fall into the trap of the comfort zone. Bad mistake but common!
(To be continued…)